Key Signals - The Key to Jump Start Change Sometimes just a word or a signal can help people move past the escalation of negativity that so often bogs down relationships. From Materialism to Integrity Discussion of the primary attributes of mental health that must be developed within our children in order to undo the effects of materialism. Stress Management For Hard Economic Times: The "Big What If" An approach to dealing with times when it seems you might lose everything you care about. Leaks in Discipline There are only two reasons parents have trouble with discipline: Consistency and Undermining. Low Self-Esteem and Its Connection to Cognitive Dissonance Observed carefully, the reason for low self-esteem can be traced to holding on to the past as if it predicts our future. Bullying The issue of bullying is very complicated, but exploring the reasons it exists and is more prominent at particular ages can help in leading to better solutions. The three A's of Relationship: Acceptance, Accommodation, and Assertiveness When a relationship moves from chemistry to every day life, couples need to recognize each other's needs and preferences, and assert their own ways, if the relationship is to last. The Satisfaction Meter It can be difficult to use a reward system when your kids are acting out, but this easy to use approach is enough to do the trick in many families. Criticism In Us An analysis of what drives our criticism towards others leads to an understanding of our discomfort with ourselves. Opposite Personalities - Identical Experience We frequently notice that people with identical circumstances develop opposite personalities. This article shows how those opposite tendencies can be understood as exaggerated methods of distancing the self from an initial similar trauma. Women and Men Although mostly all human beings are more the same than different, understanding the differences can be truly instructive and healthy for relationships Be Your Own Best Friend An appeal to all those who feel isolated and alone suggesting they take care of themselves in the same way they would take care of their very best friend. The Crippling Effects of Worry Worry not only hurts the worrier, but also has a significant impact on the others in the worrier's life. Affairs and Divorce Affairs often seem to occur for the express purpose of causing a divorce. This article examines this process and make a plea for working out problems and/or divorcing without having the affair first. Sex Is Not a Drive: It's Just Real Important There are many reasons sex is so important to human beings, but it is not, as Freud posited, a "drive." The Importance of Growth If there is one common and most important meaning for life, it is that everything is growing... or at least trying to. "I" Statements Communicate difficult emotions more usefully by stripping blame and defensiveness from what you say. Freedom and Responsibility When kids don't understand why you won't let them do things, simply point to how freedom is always balanced by responsibility. Emotional Space There's only so much room for emotions within a relationship - whether you are with your children or your spouse, you deserve to have your share. You Don't Know How Much They Love You Kids wonder why us parents have so many rules - They need to understand how much we love them. From Id to Family/World System Intrapsychic functioning stems from our deepest insecurities which, in turn, affect all our relationships. Depression It hits almost everyone at one time or another and everyone needs to know, depression thrives mostly because of how we talk to ourselves. Adaptation vs. Adaptation The personality with which we grow up is an adaptation to our childhood. Now that we're adults, however, we need to adapt to a world of endless possibilities. The Dating Fantasy Falling in love is great, but at least in the beginning we're in love with what we want, not who we're with. Communication From the Heart We have to communicate with emotional expression to be truly understood. Understanding Boundaries It's a common term that is not well understood. This article explains the concept and how it affects our daily lives. Balancing the Animal and the Spiritual Discusses the connection between our animal and spiritual natures. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Helps differentiate behavioral and emotional problems from ADHD. Assertiveness: The 30% Solution Learn to be Assertive and You'll Get What You Want Just Enough. Anxiety We all Feel It Sometimes. Balance and the Motivation to Change Balance is Everything in Life. It's Only When We Get Too Far Out of Balance That We Change. Connection and Independence Men and Women are Made With Two Very Different Motivations. Who's to Say What's "Right" in Parenting? Authoritarian or Child-Centered or a balance in between: only you know what's right for you. The Essentials of Parenting Finding a Balance Between Kindness/Affection and Consistency/Firmness. Be A Man Discusses the Insult and the Reality. More Essays Click above to see more essays. |
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